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A Meal With Friends


We are sitting at a table, enjoying a meal with friends. Every now and then a chuckle is heard within the room. We don’t even have to look, because we know who the person is that is laughing. There is always a smile on his face, and this evening is no exception. He pushes his chair back and stands up. Looking at each of us, he raises a glass of wine. He indicates that we should all do the same, and so we do, as we, too, stand up. He smiles, makes a toast and after putting his glass down, he looks at each of us, as if searching our very soul. His look tells us that what follows next will be very serious.

The room is suddenly very quiet. We listen, waiting in anticipation, for what he is about to say. And then, he quietly speaks, “I will die tonight. Nothing can stop this from happening. But there is no cause for you to be alarmed, this must happen, so that you can believe in me. I will come back to you after a few days.” We are shocked. We cannot comprehend these words. We don’t understand why he would say such a thing. To a person, we all think we have misunderstood the words he just spoke. If we really heard correctly, then we have to re-assess what has been happening over these last three years of our friendship with him.

Now, go back some 2,000 years. Put yourself in that room with Jesus, as they celebrated the feast of Passover. The events that led up to that evening were kind of similar to what was narrated above. Jesus veiled His words by speaking of destroying the temple and that He would re-build it in three days. But these were just words…weren’t they? He speaks of the bread and wine being His Body and Blood. What is He trying to tell us? Confused, you leave the room with Him and follow Him to Gethsemane. He is snatched from you and the others. Tried in a kangaroo court, He is condemned to death and dies on a cross. What do you do, now? Go back to that room, and hide. “If they did that to Him what will they do to me?” This is on everyone’s mind.

It was only after Jesus came back to them, and shows them His wounds, could they begin to understand. They reflected on His life, His words, and His actions and began piecing them together as they would a puzzle. Slowly, they realized the purpose of this Man’s life, and thus their own purpose, as well. But still they were afraid. It is only when the Holy Spirit comes to them do they fully believe and understand.

Like the Apostles, we are no different. In order for us to understand our purpose, our reason for existence, why God created our unique personality we must look to the Christ. Who is He? Do I believe He truly walked this earth? Why do I think He came? What is my relationship with Him? Does He want something from me? What? It is only by posing these questions to our self and honestly seeking out their answers can we begin to understand ourselves. Just like the Apostles, we must try to put the life of Jesus in proper perspective.

His words are meant for us to ponder: “For this was I born, and for this I came into the world; that I should give testimony to the truth. Every one that is of the truth hears my voice.” (John 18:37). We cannot kid ourselves any longer. Do we want to know the truth? Do we really want to know who we are? We are the only ones that can make this decision.

Here are some other Posts that blend with this one. Continue the thread:

1) Why Are You,,, You
2) Our Purpose In Life
3) Belief in Jesus
4) Are You Loved? Do You Love?


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What makes a friend… a friend? What is a friend? Think of the people who you call, “your friends”. What is it that makes you care about them? Makes you smile? Makes you feel that warm glow inside, when you think about them? Or maybe the better question is, “Do you really care about them?” Very often, too often, the people who we call our friends are people that entertain us, do for us, treat us very kindly, actually, treat us better than other people do.

The dictionary defines the word “friend” as a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. Affection: love and respect. Regard: care for and concern about. Friendship says nothing about what this person does for me. The friendship is not caused by, nor based on, the “glow that we feel”; but rather, the result of the friendship causes that “glow that we feel”. It is NOT … “what’s in it for me”.

So now, we get to the root of this discussion. What are you willing to do for your friends? If they have egg on their face, will you tell them? If they are living a lie, will you tell them? If their moral values are all screwed up, will you point that out to them? In short, are you willing to tell them the truth? Or, do you talk to them cautiously, so as not to offend them? Do you look the other way, when they say or do something that strays from the truth? There are a lot of questions here, and ALL of them deserve an answer, by each of us.

You see, our value system comes into play when dealing with our friends. It is very easy to throw out the statement, “It’s none of my business”, or “What he/she does is their decision”. If that is how we choose to respond to these questions, then holding a person as OUR friend is not very meaningful, nor beneficial to that person. If it is none of your business, then your friend is not very important to you. You don’t really care about them. (Care, didn’t we see that somewhere in the definition of friend?)

To be a friend to someone else brings our entire value system into play. What do we believe? What principles do we hold sacred and thus we will never give up on? We want them to always be inviolate, unblemished, spotless, and incorruptible. How strongly do we feel about these principles? What do we value? What do they mean to us? Do we simply want to be pleased by others, or do we want to be a true friend to someone else? More questions, but these are critical to knowing ourselves and thus our fellow man and ultimately our God. To be a true friend implies sharing our value system. “I will not now call you servants: for the servant does not know what his lord does. But I have called you friends: because all things whatsoever I have heard of my Father, I have made known to you.” -1 Jesus shares with us, ALL that He holds dear. He lets us see and receive His value system. He loves us and the most important thing is the sharing of the truth. So should it be with us. If our value system means something to us, then we should want to share this with our “friends”.

Christianity is not something that we tuck into our pocket, and pull it out when we are alone, or kneeling in church. It is to be lived 24-7. We are not preaching to others. We are simply sharing our likes, our values with all who we meet. “But”, you say, “They may stop liking me”. Then, two more questions need to be asked. “If your value system, if what you hold most sacred, presents an obstacle to your friend and they end the friendship, ‘What were their expectations from this friendship?” And, secondly, “If the end of this friendship is too much for you to bear, then “How strong are your beliefs in this value system called Christianity?”

It is our fondest wish that these questions asked today, will prompt many, many more questions in the days throughout your lifetime. Christianity is not an instinctive instruction. It is not a “one and done” deal with God. Rather, it is a continual growth, a relationship that flourishes between us and our God. And that relationship, as it grows, as it becomes more and more a part of us, will of necessity spill over and touch our friends, for whom we care and have regard. Our friendships with others will be based not on what we receive but on what we can offer.

1-John 15:15

Where Do We Find Truth?

We have all heard and maybe even uttered the expression, “What can he (or she) possibly know?” It seems like a normal enough statement, but at its core, it is very judgmental. When a statement like this is uttered, it is usually looking more at the person’s qualities, their life style, than at the statement that was made. Many times we are viewing how that person measures up in our eyes. What he or she says or does is being pushed back. We are no longer looking at the utterance made, or the action taken. We are looking only at the person and not what he said.

How do we come upon truth? Where can we find it? Does it come from only intelligent persons? From only people that walk and talk and live like us? To be exact, truth comes at us in many forms. Sometimes it resides in words that people say. Sometimes their actions reveal the truth to us. We may not even be looking for it, but it comes at us anyway.

Why all these words on Truth? One powerful statement in the New Testament tells us why. “And the truth shall make you free”-1.  These words were uttered by Jesus to the Jewish people. On hearing this, they immediately were affronted and attested to the fact that they were free men and had never been slaves.  They did not see nor hear what was being said, but rather what they could immediately take exception to. (Dismissing their slavery in Egypt, Babylon and even their being subjects to the Roman Empire.) But Jesus went on and said, “…whoever commits sin, is the slave of sin” -2.  He was trying to help them understand the importance of truth, which is He, Himself.

After the last supper, Jesus’ response to Thomas’ statement that the apostles did not know the way was, “I am the way, the truth and the life. No man comes to the Father, but by Me”–3.  Again, Jesus is telling them, and us, that the only way to make sense out of our lives is to constantly seek out the truth…no matter how it comes to us. We, of ourselves, cannot be united with the Father, except through Jesus. His words, not mine. With that all-important thought our mindset should be, no rather, must be to seek out and accept the truth no matter how it comes to us.

Getting back to our original statement: “What can he (or she) possibly know?” We won’t know until we listen to them with our hearts and minds open. Even the ramblings of someone who has seemingly lost all control of their own thoughts may very well say something that might trigger a thought in you. We don’t know where or when truth will find us. Similarly, we don’t know where or when God will speak to us. He can speak to us in a breath of fresh wind, a sound, a hum or a smell. Each of these may trigger a thought, a remembrance, a feeling in you. You can just say that it was a coincidence. Or, your faith, your own convictions may tell you it is something more. All of us are on this earth for one thing, and one thing only. Each of us is called to commune with our Father in heaven, to speak our unique dialogue with our God.

-1 John 8, 32
-2 John 8, 34
-3 John 14, 6

Truth. Where Is It?

Truth is where you find it. Don’t look for it, only, in certain places, spoken by specific persons. To limit where we might find truth, is to limit ourselves, is Continue reading