Well, here we are, the 2nd day of Lent is upon us. Forty days seems like a long time, but whatever we do, the days will come and go. Yesterday, while getting ashes on my forehead, I could not help but wonder. “The ashes are placed on our foreheads, to remind us of our need for repentance, to remind us that we are still very much imperfect”. And what is the Number ONE capital sin? It is the sin of pride. It is really incongruous isn’t it, that we, a society of people full of imperfections, struggle with the sin of pride.
We know our faults. Lord, do we know them. We can’t help but know them. They seem to constantly be reminding us that they are still with us. We look at our lives, and almost to the point of embarrassment, we want to turn our heads away. “Oh God, if people ever knew how I am, if they knew how very much I can and do offend you, they would never talk to me or be with me again”. We do feel that way and think that way. So what do we do? We put up a false front, a façade. This mask is what we have people see. This is how we protect ourselves. Do we strive to correct? No, that is too difficult. We just cover it up. We put on fresh paint to cover the rust underneath.
And here is the most incongruous aspect of all of this. This façade, this mask, this is what we become PROUD of. We struggle, not to correct our problems, but to maintain this illusion. We feel good, when we know that other people think highly of us. We are happiest when others believe that the mask that we hide behind is really us. And so, we do everything in our power to maintain that illusion.
Jesus asked, “Who of you is without sin?” That question wasn’t just for those people in His lifetime. That question rings down through the centuries of time, and stares us in the face. He has already told us that He loves us. He forgave us on the cross, telling His Father in heaven that we didn’t even know what we were doing. He LOVES US!!! Not as we love, with our conditions. We say, “I love that person….. but….”. We immediately put a condition on our love. We don’t really understand, nor appreciate what unconditional love is. We know that Jesus loves us. But we struggle to understand how He could do it, unconditionally. He does not look at what we have done. He looks only at the good that we are capable of doing.
Every person that you know, or ever knew has been asked that question by Jesus. None of us, or them could ever step forward. We ALL are struggling with our faults, imperfections and sins. And Jesus loves us ALL. Why then, do we hide behind our masks, our self-imposed prisons of deceit? It is because we haven’t really embraced and enjoyed the freedom of being loved unconditionally. Every person we know is loved unconditionally. We cannot keep denying our love of others, by throwing up observations that he is dirty, or greedy, or sinful, or a different race. So what? He or she is struggling just as we are.
This time of Lent is a perfect time to start looking within, at ourselves. What is preventing me from giving my friendship, my time, and my energies to others? What are the things that I am throwing up as reasons why I cannot or should not love that person? Grow closer to Jesus. Feel His love and goodness for you. Realize that He doesn’t stop at the mask, but sees us as we are, as we really are. That is the freedom that comes with being a Christian. I cannot undo the problems that I have caused. But I can begin to love my fellow man who is struggling as I am; and see Jesus in him. Have a loving Lent.

In meditating on the masks we hide behind, and how very much Jesus loves us, and how we are called to love others as unconditionally as he loves us…..it brought to my mind the occasion (many decades ago!) when our class in school was struggling with the, to us, impossibility of being required to love everybody, even those who hurt us, and Sister said, “yes, you have to LOVE everybody, but that doesn’t mean you have to LIKE them. (I don’t remember what grade we were in, but that was a hard to grasp distinction). Anyway, I have oftened wondered lately, whether in the depths of His overwhelming and all-encompassing love for us, does Jesus, Who sees us beneath our “please like me” masks, really LIKE us, do you think?
I think WE make the distinction between love and like. I have heard that comment before that “…we don’t have to like them”. I have always felt (and still feel) that that remark is a cop-out. How can we truly love someone, be concerned about their well-being, understand their situation, feel for them and then turn our head and say, “But, I don’t like you”. I think it is more to the point, that we don’t have to like what they do. This is just my opinion, however. As for Jesus “liking” or “loving” us. I think the distinction of not liking what we do also comes into play here, as well. His love for us is absolute, unconditional. If Jesus feels sorrow, (which I believe He does… He is human, also) imagine the sorrow that He must feel watching us ignore His love, and doing some of the things that we do. It is a good question Rita. We SHOULD think about His love for us, and how our actions must affect Him.
Dislike and Love – Seems to me the question is best understood and answered asked differently. Does God like us? Is anyone you dislike as offensive to you as we to our Father? We, without exception, break his commandment, violate His rules, disobey His teaching and ignore His wishes. We are the epitome of bad, disobedient children, but still, I believe He NOT ONLY loves us but likes us. How is this possible?
What are the characteristics of our Father love? Kindness, understanding, tolerance, forgivingness, guidance, sacrifice, persistence – unconditionally. How do you dislike someone when you love them this way?
Dislike and Love – Sure not everyone makes it easy to like, let alone love, them but perhaps if we followed our Fathers teaching, even a little, we would have greater success. At the least the mask of which Joe rightly speaks would be more reflective of our true appearance and nature.